It's that time of year again!

Hello my Loves!

How was your summer? I hope it was filled with sunshine and happy memories to get you through the coming frozen hellscape that is Canada's winter time. 

 

The one good thing about the end of summer? It's BACK TO SCHOOL TIME! Yes, I am yelling. Yes, I am excited. Yes I will have less time that I usually do. But. No need to worry. I have updated September's calendar with my availability, and moving forward it should stay pretty much the same as it is here: http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/calendar/ So go check it out and let's find some time to indulge and get lost in each other. 

The other thing I wanted to say to you all is, I'm very sorry! You may have noticed that I have been quiet on social media and very slow to respond to emails the last 2-ish weeks. My father had a heart attack and I spend most of the last 2 weeks up north being the dutiful daughter. He's on the mend and progressing very nicely thankfully so no need to worry. But I'm still getting through email as well as trying to make sure I'm all ready for my first class, first thing Monday morning. It's been a hell of a summer! Another reason why I'm so happy to be just days away from getting lost in the wonderful worlds of Art History, Women's Studies and Jewish Studies (who's surprised by my course selection this year? Anyone? Did you think I would be anything but 100% on brand for year 2?)

Some of you may still be waiting for responses, I'm doing my best. If you're tired of waiting feel free to send a little reminder. The busy never seems to stop but thankfully, email means I can respond from wherever I might be. 

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! Hope to see you very soon. 

 

xx

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July is here! And so are your updates!

Hello My Loves!!

 

There are so many things to get done these days I'm late with this month's updates. And only have time to quickly tell you what's up.

 

So.

 

My schedule is up: http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/calendar/ 

July is looking like a great month to see some old faces so say hi asap!

 

Patreon:

I'm still building the perfect Patreon experience and adding more every week. Be one of the first Patrons and get receive a special early bird thanks just for you!!

https://www.patreon.com/shalomharloe

And just a quick reminder. I'll (finally) be starting school again full time at the beginning of September. My schedule will be changing drastically and time will be limited. So let's make the most of summer hours and spend as many of them as we can together!!

 

 

xoxo

Summer Fun- updates and a whole new way to get connected

Hello Lovers!

I hope this season is off to a hot and sexy start. All the things on my plate these past few months are finally starting to wrap up and I'm excited to share some new ways to get connected, and what you can expect this summer. 

 

So first. Go see my new Patreon profile! https://www.patreon.com/shalomharloe

Patreon is a great site that lets you choose how generous you feel like being, while giving you access to all the great stuff you used to find on my VIP Page. And provides a safe and secure way for us to share these wonderful things. 

If you've missed getting the star treatment and want to feast your senses on so much more of me, head over to my profile and become a Patron. You'll be enjoying all the perks you've been longing for as well as special rewards, early access to Patron only releases, live interaction and 'Preferred Patron Status' which gets you to the front of the line every time we're in the same geographical location! ;-) 

New content is being added regularly. So go. Now. Do it! (Please?) 

I know some of you are a bit confused by my early return and the restrictions I've still got at the moment. But don't worry! I'm back to the full shebang (lol! I had to, sorry) as of June 21st. Since my surgery wasn't exactly what one would call minor, I still need for my Doc. to give me the 6 week go-ahead. Which is why I'm only available for massage, BDSM, or, social dates. I know it's a bit confusing but I was so bored sitting here with none of my wonderful Lovers to distract me. And aside from the medical restrictions, I'm feeling great, mostly healed, and too happy to be cancer free to keep sitting all day. 

So if you've been thinking about getting to know me this is a great week to book some massage time, or maybe a fun date out somewhere. Take a look at my Tribute page for some great social date suggestions. 

For the rest of my Lovers, my schedule is up on http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/calendar/ 

Let's get together soon Lover. It's going to be a great summer and I'm excited to share it with you!

 

xoxo

 In honour of my speedy recovery #thisismenow and very proud!

In honour of my speedy recovery #thisismenow and very proud!

Let's talk about my bod!

Ok, so, I'm writing not because I truly care about some pathetic man who clearly doesn't understand anatomy, but because, as some of you know, I've been dealing with some health issues and it seems like a good time to share a bit more. As well as remind everyone out there, you don't know other people's stories. So treat everyone with the consideration each and every human on this planet deserves and, in the words of just about everyone's Gramma: if you don't have anything nice to say, get the fuck outta here, I don't care. (wait, was that just my Bubby?)

I believe how you wake up sets the tone for the day, and is the first line of defense against 'one of thooose days'. Which is why I generally don't look at my work burner until after I've had my morning latte. 

However, some days, like today, your phone and alarm go off at the same time and you don't really mean to look but you do. And now you have to go about my day with the after taste of body shaming and misogyny in your brain.

Today is my Pre-Op admin/blood work day. So much as I'd appreciate the distraction from the cancer in my uterus and the uterine-removal surgery I'm about to have. (The next 10 days are lovingly named hysterectomy-hysteria by my lovely feminist OB) this was not the kind of distraction I was hoping for.

So, after not being able to fully focus because of the stink in my head I decided that some people out there required a little boob-natomy lesson from their favourite neighbourhood difficult to fit boobie-haver.  And a little cheeky rant was the best way to wash that stink out of my brain.

For the record, every professional fitting I have ever had puts me at size 34C. Since the very first fitting. But I have a confession. I lie about my breast size!! When given the option for a letter on ad sites I almost always go for 'size B'. Because. Ignorant men shout all kinds of silly things. Because somewhere along the way many 'hobbyists' out there decided they did not have to afford sex workers the same basic human respect all people deserve. Because they don't know how bras and boobs work. So this is how bras and boobs work.

First, the number is the size, in inches, of your rib cage. Mine is 34''. The cup size is, wait for it. THE WIDTH OF THE BREAST FROM SIDE-TO-SIDE. Not at all to do with how far the breasts stick out from the rib cage. As many people seem to think. This is actually why I think asking for a cup size on forums or ad malls is pretty silly. A C-cup can look very different from one person to the next because there are as many boobie-shapes as there are boobie-havers. Oh and because most people don't know how bras and boobies work.

This leads some people to feel justified in pointing a finger and yelling 'LIAR' but I'm here to tell you, you're not. No one is, like, ever justified in doing that. 

The thing is, my body has changed over the last year. I have lost some weight, and I've also lost some muscle, especially in my pectorals, which is actually part of the anatomy that does affect, to some degree, how far the breasts 'protrude' from the chest. (Random FYI. Pushups and pullups do for the tits what squats do for the ass). So, if you feel the urge to accuse me, or someone else, of using fake photos, why not (TAKE A LOOK AT THE TATTOOS?!?!) consider the fact that there may be factors involved that have nothing to do with evil prossies trying to scam the mens, and maybe everything to do with things you of which you are not aware, or don't understand. Including the way bras and boobies work. 

Because remember, breasts are nothing more than sacks of fat that house the anatomy required to.... feed babies.... But let's stick to the sexier facts today. 

I took some photos to help demonstrate these funny fat-sacks and they're squishy, nippled, tendencies. 

Here you have a few shots without the assistance of the ubiquitous underwire. I thought since my tattoos weren't enough to prove my identity I'd include my pretty-pink mani'ed nails for consistency. 

Clockwise from the top:

 1, My breasts in a bed

2, My breasts, just chillin' on my chest

3, My breasts in a sports bra.

 

I'd say there are some noticeable differences but here's where those differences are really obvious.

Again, clockwise from top-left:

1, My 'nails' and the bra I'm about to put on. See? No padding. (I remove the padding because in a good bra I've got all the boobage I require)

2, That bra on me, again, trying to show the lack of padding. (Though I know a few are going 'So?! You could still have put in the padding to take the pic. I did not)

3, That's how they look topless.

4, That's how they look in a tit-friendly top. Really different right? 

Wanna know why? I'v got a secret. It'll probably leave you disillusioned and disappointed... It's nothing more than an optical illusion! Seriously! The size of a person's breasts is nothing more than lighting and angles and perception, just like the size of another piece of anatomy... and literally has nothing to do with letters. If a letter is so important to you I'd suggest heading to McDick's so you can order the exact same thing you always order off the menu. As well, in the immortal words of Bubs again, 'get the fuck outta here'. You also obviously don't understand how bras and boobies work. (that line's all me)

If you think that you are justified in messaging a complete stranger and shaming them for their body I am happy to point out how much you and good ole Jon Snow have in common because clearly. You know nothing (about how bras and boobies work!).

I want to add another side-by-pic, to be totally honest, more for me than for any of you. As my hysterectomy is only 10 days away and I'm starting to think about life after a cancer diagnosis, I feel the urge to document where I am now. As I plan on documenting my journey back to full-gymrat mode in some way though how I do that, and how much I want to share here, are things I'm not going to worry about until June.

The photo on top was taken at the beginning of 2016, before I received confirmation of my diagtnosis, hitting the gym at least 5 hours a week, not quite the tank I was in my early 20's but sufficiently muscled IMO. 

The bottom picture (apologies for the quality) was taken last week. Yes, there are differences. Yes, my breasts sag a bit more than they did last year, and my ribs are more defined, and my pants are a bit loose. But this is how I look for the time being. It's temporary. And I am ultimately, otherwise, healthy and confident. I am also. A fucking warrior. And no amount of ignorant, shameful, misogyny will change how I feel about myself. Even when there are so many men out there who seem to have nothing better to do than try and knock down working women.

I also know that this time next year I will look back at these words and images and only remember those who were here with love and support. Having gained even more confidence and contentment, in part because of those wonderful people. But also, because I didn't let the bastards, drag me down.

Love and thanks for any response but I want to say., This isn't about seeking sympathy or some kind of deep personal hurt because of the ignorance in the world. So if you feel compelled to comment please keep either of those topics out of it. 

Thank you!

Here is some happy news for March

Hello Lovers!

 

It's slowly becoming spring! I personally can't wait to ditch all the winter layers and pull out the sexy spring/summer gear. Every year about this time I get itchy for short-shorts and bare shoulders.

 

Just a quick note for you this month. 

 

The schedule for March is up and ready for your reference. Please check out my availability here: http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/calendar/

 

For those of you who have been waiting for the new VIP page some updates: 

The new page is underway. I promise you will be able to view all the content that was up on Carly-Black.com/VIP as well as new content and info on how to get more of me. 

For now please head here: http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/vip/ to see what's already available for you and me to enjoy each other. 

An update on that not-so-fun health stuff. I have an idea of when I'll be taking more time off. Nothing will be confirmed until March 23rd, the day we schedule surgery. But so you know, it will be 6-8 weeks later. So I'll be taking a few weeks off starting late April/early May. Probably 3-4 weeks. Which means I'll be back to sexy 100% for the start of summer! Yay! It's almost over!

Spring is coming and so are many wonderful things! I can't wait to share them with you.

 

That's all for now.

 

xoxo

S

 

 

 

November

Hello Lovers!

 

It's been quite a month. October flew by so quickly! 

November always comes as a relief after the craziness of October. I hope everyone's Halloween was fun and spooooky!

It's also the time of year that makes me want to kick up the romance. Something about the crisp air, grey days, cozy wool things, and turning on the fire place for the first time. Makes me want to spoil someone, and be spoiled in return....

And now I have a bunch of big changes to tell you all about. 

First. The annoying stuff.

Stripe has recently bowed down to big bank pressure and no longer allows adult related commerce. Fuck that!! Stripe was one of the few Sex Work friendly options available to both CAD and USD. I'm looking for new options but at the moment things are pretty restrictive. 

I am still accepting Interac email transfers and Bitcoin as forms of payment for deposits, Skype dates, gifts, and for those interested in the other lovely things I have available like panties and stockings etc. Hopefully I'll find a suitable replacement for Stripe soon. 

Second, more annoying news. The new website. It's beautiful and I'm so pleased with it! But sadly it does not have the same secure membership options as  the last site. :( It looks like the VIP section is going to have to continue it's hiatus until the new year.

I will be keeping the old site up as promised. I've decided it's best to let everyone's memberships run out and look into some other options for the new year. 

So, as sad as it is to see the VIP and newsletter disappear. At least there's something to look forward to next year. 

I'm looking forward to showing off some of the content I've been accumulating recently. And am hopeful that as the year of 'nothing working out right' ends and 2017 begins there will be less road bumps and 'snafus' for all of us!!  (Goodness what a year it's been)

On a much happier note: My new schedule is up on http://www.shalomharloe.com/#/calendar/ for November and I'm going to even take some time and fill it out for the rest of the year, though things will of course still be subject to change so check back often! ;-)

 

This week I'm available Thursday, Friday, and, Saturday! Crazy. So drop me a line and let's arrange some time together!

♥♥♥